What To Do if Your Safety Mantra Isn’t Working

Tips from a chronic pain recovery therapist

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Chronic pain is a danger signal created in the brain when your nervous system feels unsafe. So, in order to get the pain signal turned down, we need to help our nervous system feel safe again.⁠

For some people in some situations, simply saying the mantra “I am safe” can be enough to help the nervous system shift gears from fear into safety.⁠

But it doesn’t work for everyone all the time. In fact, sometimes saying “I am safe” can feel like you’re gaslighting yourself. After all, the world we live in does have very real dangers in it.⁠

We can’t create safety by trying to control the inherently unpredictable world around us.

Safety is created when:

🧡 Your heart feels valued by your head.

🧡 Your heart has a say in how you navigate the unpredictable world around you.

🧡 Your heart knows that it matters because it has a hand on the steering wheel of your life.

Safety is not about preventing the unpreventable losses and dangers and wounds in life…

Safety is about sticking by your own side through it all, whatever happens.

If you like the phrase “I am safe” and it works for you, that’s fantastic. Use it! If it works, it works. That’s all that really matters here.⁠

But if it’s not working or feeling genuine for you, you might try one of the phrases that I tend to prefer. Phrases like:⁠

👉 “I have my back.”⁠ ⁠

👉 “I believe myself.”⁠ ⁠

👉 “I love myself.”⁠ ⁠

👉 “I am here for myself.”⁠ ⁠

👉 “I can count on my own support.”⁠

What phrase or phrases help you bring your nervous system back into the safe-feeling zone? 💫⁠

➡️ If you need support with chronic pain and anxiety, take my FREE QUIZ called Why the *bleep* am I still in pain?! so I can help you get some clarity.

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